Where Do I start

I’ve taken some time away from writing, to gather myself and my thoughts. I wonder at times, what I’m called to write about and how I continue to pursue that about which I am passionate. Honestly, the world has me wondering these things as everyday I wake up to some new horror and bad news sweeps through my Facebook newsfeed and the internet.I am in the bad habit of reaching for my phone when I wake up and immediately scrolling through Facebook. What a horrible way to start the day, first off! I went the U.S. for 3 weeks with the intention of writing in my blog just about everyday, but then I became worn down with the news coming in. First Christina Grimmie was shot in Orlando, then soon after, Islamic Terror reigned down in Orlando, and then only days later, my newsfeed was consumed with the devastating news of the toddler who was taken from his father’s arms by the ravishing jaws of an alligator. I felt it impossible to start my day well. I felt consumed by grief of the world every morning. It was affecting me. I can imagine and hope others feel the same. I worry that social media has almost made us immune to grief as we share in others’ tragedies from a distance, casting our unwanted opinions thoughtlessly and arguing with people we’ve never met.
I ask myself “what is social media doing to us all?” The truth is that accidents and tragedies and injustices have ALWAYS happened all over the world, at times worse than now and at times less than now. The great difference being that we now wake up to the horrific things daily on our phones. We are pulled into the lives of people we will never meet and I wonder what that is doing to us. The worst part for me is when I read an article, I make the stupid decision to read the comments and all my hope for humanity seem lost. It is so EASY to give our opinions and spew judgement or hate online. It feels anonymous. I hate it. The judgement towards parents suffering the unimaginable…….the sheer callousness towards those in the throws of grief…….the need for people on Facebook to seek attention through their unwanted and unneeded opinions……and the unwillingness to acknowledge the offenses given.
Along with these tragedies, there are the other big topics to read about. The US election, Brexit, Trump, Clinton, #blacklivesmatter, #alllivesmatter, LGBT activism and bias, Islamic Terrorism and the real threat we face, and so much more, are some of the things I read about each morning and throughout the day. Mostly, I’m dismayed by the opinions I read from friends and acquaintances stating opinions as fact and incredible bias against those who may not agree. ON BOTH SIDES. Positions and stands are being taken with righteous zeal. I read on a daily basis how those who would vote Trump are stupid, uninformed idiots who will cause the destruction of America. There are comparisons to Hitler even, which boggles my mind. I take offense because I know plenty of people voting that way. I read on a daily basis how those who would vote for Clinton are ignorant and corrupt and I take offense because I know plenty of people voting that way. I read from expats I know around the world during Brexit, which to ME seemed like a great thing, that anyone with that view is dumb and uninformed, and yet again I feel discouraged. Since when did we decide that those with a different opinion or belief system or worldview are less intelligent or “worldly” than us? Pulling up social media I witness how views which in the light of day may not be quite as extreme………online are given such weight.
I just am writing this because I wonder if social media does more to discourage and divide us than we think. I wonder if our opinions which may not even be solid, become fixed with what we read and see. Do we take the time to think things through and feel the world around us, or do we make snap judgements and form our minds around ideas we know nothing about, only because it is popular? Do we speak words that demean those who are our friends, that we would never utter to a face in front of us, because we feel shielded by a screen? Is hatred spewed in the name of “tolerance” and “intolerance” and what people believe those represent? Hatred towards difference is brewing and we need to take a step back. I know at times I read what friends or acquaintances write and I think, “what? how can they think that?”, but I won’t change their opinions with my opinion. Not on social media anyway. I can, we can, show love and kindness to those who see the world in a different light, and we should. I can, we can, stand up for our beliefs with love and kindness, with strength and humility. We don’t have to AGREE with someone to love them and we shouldn’t spew hatred and vitriol through a freaking computer, OR in our daily lives.
I don’t know, and I can only hope we begin to ask ourselves these questions. That we learn to understand WHY we believe what we believe and that we fight evil with good and to try to understand why others believe what they believe. May we learn discernment in our thoughts.
“Darkness cannot drive out darkness. Only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate. Only love can do that.”
The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.” Mark 12:31

Finding Beauty Amongst Grief-Crete

Today we arrived in Crete, Greece. We desperately need this trip as Dragan has been working crazy hours for the past 6 weeks and we have not had any quality time together; in fact we’ve had virtually no time together at all. The trip in itself has been slightly stressful as we weren’t fully prepared. We tend to take advantage of opportunities that often arise last minute and then we are in a full on flutter. But, now, we are here, in paradise. The Greek Islands are so special to me as the history is vivid, the people are warm, and the landscape is breathtaking. I never really thought I would come to places like this, and I feel very lucky. 

That being said, last night we were finishing packing, and we heard of the terror sweeping through Nice, in Dragan’s home country. Today we traveled with a heaviness in our hearts. I’m just so tired of hearing these news. I’m sad for what’s happening in our world. I’m scared of the evil we face and which we witness now far too regularly. 

I walked along the beach today, and I will write more about it tomorrow as there is much to say; but I wandered along the shores of this land whose civilization has battled good vs evil for thousands of years…… and I felt overcome. The world seems filled with grief, and at the same time it exudes such beauty. I wish we could all stop and see the beauty so our hearts could be filled with wonder and our minds with wisdom.


Is it Raining or Snowing on the Alps?


Good morning to all of my American friends. πŸ™‚ It’s just after noon here and today is one of those rainy but freezing days where you just want to rain to become snow, as that would be much more pleasant. I can’t seem to motivate myself to go do much other than take Jasper out. I had hoped to ski today, but not in this……! ( Continue reading “Is it Raining or Snowing on the Alps?”

Happy Thanksgiving!

Good morning and Happy Thanksgiving. I wanted to take a few moments, while curled up with a cup of coffee, in my fur robe, to give thanks for this past year.

There have been ups and downs, joy and heartache, love and loss, but I’m so grateful to be here and to have the people in my life with who I am blessed.
I’m grateful for a new husband, who is unconditionally kind, massively handsome and completely charming. I’m grateful we are together on this day, on his first Thanksgiving.
I’m grateful for the 10 years I had with my little girl Bailey Marie , who was my saving grace and a joy in my life, and whose loss left a space in my heart, and I’m grateful for the new puppy we will be bringing home for Christmas.
I’m thankful for my wonderful family, who are giving and lovely. I love them.

And for my friends near and far, old and new…….Here are some images from my year that I cherish.

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Thanks for reading…..
With Love
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Can You Go Home Again?

I’ve been in Ohio just over one week, and after living oversees for roughly a year, it is the first time I’ve ever been “homesick”. I’m not talking about homesick for the States, as I’ve experienced that all year long, but I feel homesick for my little spot in the world, straddling the border of France and Switzerland. It’s funny how you start to change when you don’t even know you are changing. Granted, I miss my husband, Dragan, and the routines we were getting into and the fun places we get to visit, but it’s more than that. I miss the scenery (I suppose living in the Swiss Alps spoils you), I miss my home, and weirdly, I miss the struggles I was facing. How bizarre. So, I thought I would create a little list of things you experience as an expat on the Swiss French border when you go back home to your country. This could obviously apply to expats everywhere but as I’m living in one of the most stunning places on Earth, some of my experiences I’ve learned are charmed.

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A Swiss Summer’s Day in Fall..Farmers Markets… and FOOD

Hello All. πŸ™‚ There is a video at the bottom of this post if you don’t like READING. πŸ™‚ Greetings from our little town.
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Today has been just a spectacular day here in Switzerland. It was sunny and 75 and a perfect day for walking, getting gelato and going to the Farmer’s Market. An interesting aspect to living here is that everything, and I mean EVERYTHING, is closed on Sundays. This is quite wonderful but can also be a little frustrating as I’ve always loved shopping on Sundays. Living in NYC, Sundays were often my busiest day for showing clients homes and usually I would reward myself with pampering and shopping after…….sigh….I DO miss that. Especially since a pedicure is over 100 here and most places don’t put your feet in water and, well, you can just FORGET about that foot massage…..

I digress….( Continue reading “A Swiss Summer’s Day in Fall..Farmers Markets… and FOOD”